I’ve been thinking about life and death this week. A typical thing to do when you lose a someone special, which sadly happened in my family this week. I lost my cousin Sidney; who was a devoted husband, father, musician, and teacher.
As the Rabbi so eloquently said at the funeral, we “tucked him in” after living a happy eighty-eight years. The day was spent celebrating Sidney’s phenomenal, full, and exciting life; and I was reminded of two things:
BEAUTY AND PAIN CAN PEACEFULLY CO-EXIST
LIFE GLIDES BY QUICKLY
I’ve continued to think about Sidney’s amazing life; and the subject of death. I feel like we as a Western society are conditioned to be afraid of death, an inevitable ending we’ll all meet. This all got me thinking, I still have so much life left to live, how can I embrace it?
HOW MUCH AM I MISSING OUT ON WHEN I SPEND TIME DOING THINGS THAT AREN’T LIVING?
When I feel like I’m “not living,” I get caught in a cycle of suffering.
I harp on the past, dwell on the future, or do anything to escape the present moment. I have feelings of burn out, resent, and a lack of happiness.
Where I’m constantly worrying about everything that I can’t control and comparing myself to others.
I am missing out on profound happiness, enjoying the simple pleasures, true peace of mind and appreciation of the present.
WHAT AM I DOING WITH THE TIME I HAVE HERE? WHAT LEGACY WILL YOU LEAVE BEHIND?
I want to consciously make an effort to fully participate in each and every moment, stop and enjoy the little things.
Strive to unapologetically make myself happy; starting from the inside out by creating new habits and breaking the ones that hindered me in the past.
Celebrate, encourage, and teach others. Pass on my wisdom, experiences, advice and love to those closest to me.
Learn to take on fear head on and dive into whatever my soul tells me to do. Take the leap and trust that the universe has my back.
When my last exhale is not met with the next inhale, I want to peacefully say “Wow, that was fast. It’s been amazing.” I want to leave this earth with pure gratitude for the chance to have been a spirit living a human experience.
I want my family, friends, colleagues, and acquaintances to raise a glass of champagne and remember me because I cared, listened, and tried my best. That’s a legacy worth leaving.
It’s not what we do in life, but those we impact, the loves we touch, the seeds we plant, the lives we change and the legacy we leave behind.
Let there be peace in knowing, in the very beginning and the very end, we are all the same. Only if we could recognize how true that is every second of our lives, we may finally know a greater peace for those moments of suffering.